Sunday, September 19, 2010

Adios, muchachos

Hello, goodbye.

The time has come to say goodbye to this blog.

Why? Frankly, I feel too many people read it. It's one thing having strangers around the world reading up on my weekly exploits, but it's another having casual acquaintances check out what I've been up to or read what I think about J, our marriage, my career, or other facets of my life. I never thought I'd be saying this but I don't want the details of my life to be so public. At least not to people I kind of know.

I want to be more honest about my thoughts; I want to be more raw about my life. And so I've decided to abandon ship here on Brunette on a Budget and start over again, completely anonymous on a new blog. I get that if I want to be private about my feelings I should probably just buy a moleskin and call it a day, but ever since I've started blogging I've fallen in love with it. I get a thrill each time I hit "publish" and don't want to give that up. Instead, I'm willing to give up my online identity. On my new blog there will be no name, no picture, no location, and I'm beyond thrilled to have a fresh, anonymous start. (Is this an iota of the way Madonna feels each time she reinvents herself? Because the feeling is so liberating.)

I will miss it here, though, and I'll miss you, dear reader-friends. It's been an amazing 2+ years and leaving now feels like the end of an era. When I started this blog in May of 2008, J and I were just settling into life in DC and this was meant to be a creative outlet outside of work on those long nights when J studied in the law library and Lola and I sat home watching Grey's Anatomy. My initial focus on this site was personal finance (hence the name) and I blogged about financial matters for months until my writing morphed into more personal narrative as I figured out my life and where I was going. That led to the infamous I did it. I quit my job post, which kicked off my journey into fiction writing and now, a year and a half later, my entry back into the workforce. P.S. If you're wondering, I do still write but wish, like before, that I could commit all of my time to it (she said, longingly).

Now I feel there are too many eyes on this blog and I can't say everything I want to say, and so I'm peacing out. I have one book review that I promised to write in October, but after I post it on Oct. 18th, this blog will officially become stagnant. Over on my new blog I'll continue to write about J, The Nana and the rest of my cast of characters; I'll continue to make like Rita Hayworth and Put the Blame on Mame; I'll continue to update about my book progress (J's currently editing manuscript #1 with me); and I'll update about writing my third novel in November for NaNoWriMo (my outline is already coming together -- I can't wait!!). Best of all, I'll continue to blog about my life, but this time more boldly. More honestly.

I'm almost finished setting up my other website, so if you want to follow me into anonymity email me at and I'll let you know once it's up and running (include your blog link if I don't know you.) If not you can always still find me on Twitter.

Hopefully we'll meet each other all again on our long journey to the middle -- till then, ciao ciao!


Legally Married said...

I'm so disappointed to be losing your blog when I've just been reading you for a few months - you and Law School Wife (Brittany) were two of my first blogging inspirations.

Best of luck in all your future endeavors! I look forward to seeing your work as a published author in the future! :)

Chris Rodell said...

I don't know whether I could pull of blogging and working full time either. I will miss your blog though. You did a great job with it, and I wasn't exactly in your target readership.

Best of luck!

Chris R.

Anonymous said...

Well I'm sad to see this blog end, as it was inspiration for my own. However, hopefully I will still be able to catch wind of the new one via Twitter.

Good luck to you on your new endeavors!

Linda said...

DAMN! I love your blog. But I did the same thing and random people reading it was one of the reasons for me too. Good luck lady!

Stephanie said...

I did the same thing a while back and it's already starting to grow to that uncomfortable level again. I'm one snap decision away from going back to paper and pen. Good luck and I don't blame you one bit !


Mandy said...

You have to do what your heart and head says! But yes, I will really miss this blog. I know you will always achieve great things and I can't wait to see/hear about your book in print and show up at your book signing oneday so I can whisper in your ear that I read your blog back in the day.... :-)

I will send you an email as I'd like to still keep up with you!

COL said...

I'm so disappointed but totally understand why. You're a brilliant writer and I'll miss reading your posts very much. Good luck!!!!

Anonymous said...

Boo! You Whore! Just kidding, sort of. I'm so sad to see your blog come to an end. I really enjoyed your posts thought at times really funny. But as they say in french, "c'est la vie."

Average Girl said...

I completely understand your decision -- I've done exactly the same thing, and it really does free you up to write exactly what you want to write and how you want to write it. Best of luck to you!

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